Wednesday, October 13, 2010

How to be alone by Tanya Davis.

This is a really great video and poem.

If you are at first lonely, be patient. 
If you've not been alone much, or if when you were, you weren't okay with it, then just wait. 
You'll find it's fine to be alone once you're embracing it.

Tthere's prayer and meditation. No one will think less if you're hanging with your breath seeking peace and salvation.



When you are comfortable with eat lunch and run, take yourself out for dinner. 

Go to the movies. Where it is dark and soothing. Alone in your seat amidst a fleeting community. 


And then, take yourself out dancing to a club where no one knows you. Stand on the outside of the floor till the lights convince you more and more and the music shows you. Dance like no one's watching...because, they're probably not. And, if they are, assume it is with best of human intentions. 
Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, there're always statues to talk to and benches made for sitting give strangers a shared existence if only for a minute and these moments can be so uplifting and the conversations you get in by sitting alone on benches might've never happened had you not been there by yourself

Society is afraid of alonedom, like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements, like people must have problems if, after a while, nobody is dating them. But lonely is a freedom that breathes easy and weightless and lonely is healing if you make it.

Perhaps in the interest of loving oneself, perhaps all those sappy slogans from preschool over to high school's groaning were tokens for holding the lonely at bay. Cuz if you're happy in your head than solitude is blessed and alone is okay.


 take silence and respect it. 


you could be in an instant surrounded if you needed it.
If your heart is bleeding, make the best of it.


There is heat in freezing, be a testament.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

I LOVE this. Thank you so much for taking the time to post this!

I enjoy spending time alone, but many of my friends don't understand why. It's very nice to watch something orchestrated so beautifully and poetically that expresses solidarity's true beauty.

Thanks!

Lizzie said...

Hey AJ. I saw this last spring when I was living alone for the first time and loved it. I'm happy it's found you in your first similar experience.

Chantal said...

This is beautiful! Thanks for sharing!

Unknown said...

Great post! I live alone, away from my airman, so I'm used to it... but this would have been a great read when we first parted ways. Thanks for sharing!

Anonymous said...

I LOVE this. Maybe I should take some of it's advice. lol